MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS

My fabulous mentor and maternal grandmother used to have a saying. Every time she felt that someone was infringing upon her privacy or decisions, etc, she'd say "...they should mind their own ____damn business." This was her way of telling us that what we were thinking or doing was our business and our business alone and we should not be swayed by what other people thought about us. My maternal aunt had another pearl of wisdom, and that was that if you were in the midst of completing a project to never to say anything about what you were doing until you'd completed it. "Let your results be your announcement."

Ernest Holmes, my grandmother and aunt are definitely together in mind about this concept, because in "Love and Law" Holmes says, "You will get the biggest results if you will say nothing to anybody of what you want to do. If we could add to the commandments, the greatest would be mind your own business." (Love and Law by Ernest Holmes)

I know for myself, when I feel the need to talk about what I am doing or trying to do, it just means I am not sure about it and need the outside to tell me it is okay.

I have used these important bit of advice many times in my life, but not so much so as when I intentionally released 50 pounds of body weight at the age of 54. I never asked anyone for their opinion. I knew what I wanted to do, and set out to do it. It was easy because I was certain and had made a decision. I didn't need to know what anyone was thinking about me or my decision. My aunt was right. "Mind your own business," brought me success.

My grandma's little pearl of wisdom came into play on more than one occasion and kept me on course. Although, I was minding my own business, interestingly, it seems that my weight loss became the business of everyone that was close to me, and they had no qualms about talking about it behind my back and to my face. Did it bother me? For a long time it did. It didn't stop me from losing weight, like it might have at one time, but there was a hurt and a deep curiosity about the why. When I found out today that this was still going on after almost three years, I am really asking why.

As a side note, my plan and way of losing weight is all contained in a program put together by my husband and myself called, "You're the Boss!" I won't go into that here, but let it suffice: It is a healthy plan based on the premise "...it is done unto you as you believe." What you believe about food and eating affects how you eat and what it does to your body. That's enough of that for now. Let's get back to how important it is to "mind your own business."

So why does this bother me? Everyone says they are just concerned about me. But why is it considered well meaning to worry about another person whether they ask you to or not? I know the answer as a Spiritual Practitioner, it is not my place to be worried about anything. By worrying, I am not knowing the truth. Frankly, my only business is to see and know perfection in any situation.

So, as I hear even after close to three years, that people are still worried about me and my weight loss, I have to look at myself too. Why am I attracting this sort of concern? Well, I got my answer thanks to Grandma. It is not about why they are saying it to me, that's their business. It's more about how am I reacting to it?

I am taking, Grandma's Auntie's and Ernest's advice, "Mind your own business, Rita." It is not my job to be concerned about what others think of me or my business. It is my business. God's business. Calmness and surety comes from knowing that. Anything else would be judgment on my part and none of my business. Enough said and so it is!